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Christmas in the Philippines

It’s Not This Time of Year Without… This one of the most awaited in the holiday season, Christmas. People said that we, Filipinos, belong to the countries which celebrate the longest Christmas season. Songs, decorations and the feeling of it usually starts during the so called ‘-BER months’ (SempterBER, OctoBER, NovermBER, DecemBER) to us and ends until January. Everyone gets excited and started counting off days. This is a traditional behavior for us since we are mostly Christians and this event really is significant to our lives. One thing that best describes the kind of Christmas celebration in the Philippines is that it is ‘Powerful’, not literal of its meaning. There is power in it for us because no matter what situation we are in, when this day comes, we will celebrate it with all our heart together with our love ones. Christmas in the Philippines is full of color, joy, love, kindness, faith, hope, and life, it is amazingly beautiful.philippines_events_christmas

There are unique and amazing traditions that we always do during this season. First is that, the “Misa de Gallo” or the official observance by the Church which starts on 16th of December to the Christmas eve itself. We usually went to Church for our devotion to God and the foremost anticipation of Christ’s birth. There is also a folk belief that God grants the special wishes of those devotee who hears all the nine masses. Outside churches you will usually see vendors of “kakanin” or native delicacies.

The next one is celebrated with the mass on the 24th, the “Bisperas ng Pasko” or Christmas eve. This part is one of the most significant one where in we do the “Noche Buena” feast and dine together with our families. On the 25th, it’s also a tradition that we go visit our other relatives like grandparents, godparents, uncles, aunties, and cousins to their houses and “magmano” or the act of kissing their hands. They usually give the children gifts or money as “Aguinaldo”. Some also prepare feasts on this day because this is also a way of reuniting with the other members of the family.

Lastly, the decorations that we put up outside our houses, churches and parks. The common ones are the “Parol” and “Belen”. Parols are lanterns which are usually star-shaped but there are also different shapes, sizes, designs, and colors. While the Belen is a traditional symbol of the birth of Christ. It is a tableau where there is the picture of infant Jesus surrounded by Virgin Mary, St. Joseph, the shepherds, their flock, the Magi, some stable animals and an Angel and/or a Star.

The thought of Christmas is giving praise to our Lord and love to others. As the song says “Give love on Christmas day..”

One-sided, bad love.

How are you guys? Today I feel like writing about this whole week of experience. It was specifically about the person I liked. Unluckily, it is one-sided bad love.

Isn’t love is interesting and the ideal type one, especially for ladies, is the fairy tale-like romance love stories. This kind of love stories are kinda rare nowadays, though they still happen, and many dream of having it. But how can you tell if it is the real thing, being in love? Often times, people confused about their feelings of like and love. While for me, if you like someone, you love him/her. I’m not saying that they are the same thing but liking someone means you love something about them. Maybe you love his/her hair, smile, looks, personality/attitude and etc.; these are still part of that person. You can’t love a person without liking a thing or two about him/her.

This love starts with that thing called ‘I like him/her’; it only grows over time when you started to know more and more and more about that person. Then suddenly you’ll realize that you’ve already fallen deep for that person. This is where the hardest part will challenge you. If you are brave enough, you can get yourself together and confess how you feel but if not, like in my case, it’s really troublesome. Other feelings will arise like being confused and scared that if continuously happens will only lead you to keeping those feelings alone inside you. It really is scary especially if you are close friends with that person and you are afraid of losing that relationship, you are afraid of losing the person you have feelings with.

The love that I have for the person I like is not even possible plus I’m really not brave enough to even admit it even to myself at first. The love I have for her is ‘One-sided bad love’. The one-sided part is clear of course, just like I’ve said, it’s hard to admit for persons who are weak emotionally. It’s is bad because it can’t really happen, in any way you think, it can’t really just happen. In simpler thought, my love for that person is definitely impossible. Maybe you think that I’m way too pessimist, but it was the truth though. I’ve made up my mind, since I can’t be with that person the way I want to be, I will just treasure every precious moment I spend with her even just how she sees me as a person, as her friend. It looked like I gave up right? But I really haven’t yet. I will continue to love her even I know it will hurt me bad in the end because loving someone is not just being happy, not always. It also is being sad in the end for the person you love to have happiness. It’s called sacrifice. I don’t really want to get hurt; no one wants to but if you really love that person, you will choose that thing, sacrificing your own happiness, just to see him/her happy.

I promised myself that I will keep this ‘friends-only-love’ that she feels for me. Heart break is no big deal to me, what is important is keeping the trust and friendship that I share with this person. I want to continue, laughing with her while walking home together, to talk things with her serious and nonsense ones, to eat with her, to glance at her freely, to held her hand, to comfort her and to be by her side as a friend that she trusts so much. These things are the reason why I love her. I’m happy just being with her and that is more than enough for me because what I really desire is her happiness, with me by her side or not. I just want to see that pretty face of her with a bright smile on it. I know that that is what my heart really wants to seek out.

I may get hurt in the end of this story but I know that every wound will tend to heal and every broken heart will mend itself. People will continue to move on as the time passes. What is important is what you have now, live with it gladly, enjoy it and never fear of losing it because we all know nothing is constant in this world, only change. Even if we lose something, be sad for a while, accept the fact and then move on because there is a reason for everything. We must continue to live, laugh and love.

“Do cry because it’s over, SMILE because it happened.” – Dr. Seuss

“You only live once, but if you do it RIGHT, once is enough.” – Mae West

Love is Magical

Love is real and very amazing feeling. To love and be loved is the part of it being magical and there are many kinds of love.

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From the very moment you came into this world, your are loved already, by whom? of course your parents. Comes after our life, our family is the second greatest gift that we have received. Though some doesn’t live together with their family, the love that gave you life into this world will never be gone and will always be painted into your heart.

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Other forms of love is the love we get from our friends. Having person/s to trust is so nice for you have those open ears to listen to you, loud but joyful voice to talk things with you, willing shoulders for you to lean on, sweet hugs to comfort you and a company to be with you in happiness and even in sadness.

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There is also this romantic kind of love. This kind of love is somewhat different from what we receive from our family and friends, though there are also some similarities. When we speak of it, of course, the ones which we are referring to is our boyfriend/girlfriend or wife/husband or someone whom you are a couple with. Being deeply in love with someone is like dreaming. The feeling of having a special person who you know shares the same interest as you and will give you special love, care, and respect is something magical.

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Lastly, I think the most important and must everyone give is the love to yourself. You can’t make people love you if even you, don’t love yourself. Above anything else, you must learn your own self especially your strengths and weaknesses for you to also protect yourself against others who want to cause harm to you. You must understand and accept everything in you even your flaws so that others can’t use those against you and make them like all those things about you. Just be yourself, love it and be confident with it because love really is MAGICAL.

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